Experiencing Holidays As Immigrants
Experiencing Holidays As Immigrants
The holiday season—November and December for Americans and many others—is often associated with celebration, gift-giving, joy, sharing, and gathering with loved ones. Since childhood, many of us have learned that Christmas and other holidays are times to spend with family, honoring cultural traditions. But what happens when family members are far away, or when the environment around us feels unfamiliar?
For many immigrants, holidays can bring feelings of nostalgia, a longing for loved ones, and a deep yearning for familiar traditions left behind. These emotions are often accompanied by guilt over what they’ve had to leave, leading to a sadness that feels out of sync with both the current reality and cherished memories of holidays past.
This disconnect between how we think we should feel and how we actually feel can create confusion, frustration, and a sense that something is wrong with us, increasing our emotional distress.
When this disconnect happens, it’s important to remember that migration often involves a grieving process, especially during significant dates like Christmas and other holidays. Recognizing, accepting, and managing these emotions can help make this time of year more bearable and meaningful.
Navigating Celebrations Amid Challenges
For many immigrants, starting over in a new country means leaving behind almost everything familiar. Some struggle with financial hardships, unable to afford gifts or even a Christmas Eve dinner. Others lack basic necessities like shelter or warm clothing for the winter.
Thankfully, many local organizations offer assistance regardless of race, ethnicity, or immigration status. If you are experiencing difficulties, don’t hesitate to seek help. You can contact 211 or visit their website (211.org) to find resources for you and your family.
Staying Connected with Family
Traveling outside the United States can be difficult for many immigrants, especially those navigating legal or financial barriers. It’s natural to feel the desire to reunite with loved ones, and when that isn’t possible, it’s important to acknowledge these limitations and find healthy ways to cope with the frustration. Attending faith-based services or other community events can provide a sense of connection and comfort.
In general, it is not recommended to leave the country during the immigration process, but if it is a case of force majeure and you are waiting for the Green Card, you can ask for a permit from USCIS. This permit is called Emergency Advanced Parole, and its approval depends exclusively on the decision of the immigration agent. Asylum or TPS (Temporary Protected Status) applicants can technically apply for Emergency Advanced Parole. However, they should not travel back to their home country as that undercuts their claim for Asylum and TPS.
Our Immigration Legal Services Division provides support immigrants https://iilosangeles.org/service/legal-services/
Tips for Maintaining Well-Being During Holidays
- Acknowledge and accept your feelings: It's okay to feel sad or nostalgic during the holidays.
- Maintain a routine: Regular physical activity, healthy eating, and good sleep habits can support your emotional well-being.
- Create your own traditions: Focus on the traditions most meaningful to you and adapt them to your new circumstances and budget.
- Connect with others: Avoid isolation by spending time with supportive people or attending community gatherings.
- Plan and budget wisely: You don't need to go into debt to enjoy Christmas and other holidays.
- Avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms: Refrain from using substances to deal with sadness or anxiety.
- Seek help if needed:
- Suicide & Crisis Line: Dial 988
- Substance Abuse Hotline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
